Dear Editor"

LETTERS

Dear Virginia:

I have read with great interest and enjoyment the many stories, both fact and fiction, the historic accounts and the theories of and about FPia. I have come to realize that I too have thoughts on FPia which I would like to express. I am a new subscriber to TVia, but I am a long time dresser. And, too, like many other FP's, I have married. Having made this step, I realize that I have additional obligations and duties other than satisfying my femme-self's needs. I have a wife I must satisfy. I must satisfy her as a man. I have duties to my children, such as not forcing any undue embarrassments upon them. They are too young to understand why "daddy dresses like mommy." They might eventually understand daddy's need to be his femme-self, but not now during their childhood.

My wife married me as a man and she deserves to have a man. If she feels uncomfortable around me when I am dressed up, then I must limit my dressing to when she is not around. If she tolerates it to certain limits, then by all means I must contain my femme-self to those circumstances.

It is very exciting to dream about living our lives as our femme- selves, but what are we giving our wives. My wife is not a lesbian. She does not want to make love to another woman, nor does she want to live the remainder of her life with another woman. She needs to be loved; loved by a man the way only a man can satisfy her.

If she allows me to dress in front of her, I must be just a "girl" friend to her not a lover. Our marriage is based on love and understanding for each other's wants and needs. If she understands my need to dress up, then I must be willing to understand her need to have a man.

Deanna IL-3S-G